When I hear someone suggest that as humans we're all the same I cringe.
Thankfully, we are not all the same.
Each of us is wired differently than the others. Sure, we have much in common (thank goodness), but what works for me might not work for you.
The differences in our wiring can often lead to frustration and head-scratching. How come what makes sense to me doesn't make sense to you?
That's the problem with different wiring. I like to think of it as a circuit: input a signal into one circuit and compare that circuit's output to that of another. Different.
Same input, different circuit, different outcome.
Which is why we need to make a good case for tolerance.
The more tolerant we are of other wiring schemes within people's heads, the easier it will be to get along with them.
And getting along with each other is a generous gift we can all give.